Last week I attended a wonderful event, hosted by MuTu System all about body confidence and taking good care of your body whether you’ve had children or not. It was a thought-provoking morning as it’s a subject close to my heart and even before I became a mum, I’d have ups and downs with how I thought of my body. I’ve always known I should embrace it and accept myself for who I am, but with the social media and magazines all around us showing a different image to what I see when I look in the mirror, I suppose I just struggle.
While we were there, we watched an inspiring and moving 90 minute documentary called ‘Embrace’. It follows Taryn Brumfitt, who published a picture of her before and after body on Facebook and after it going viral, set out to explore the global issue of how we feel about our bodies. I wasn’t prepared for how emotional I would feel watching the documentary – statistics like ‘80% of 5-12 year olds dislike their body’, made me shed a few tears for my innocent and gorgeous daughter at 2.5 years old. It saddened me that girls only a couple of years older are made to feel their bodies are not good enough. Already I feel uncomfortable when someone compliments Emma on being ‘beautiful’ or ‘pretty’. I know she is, of course, but I also want her to know that she is funny and smart and intelligent. I want her to know that it’s not all about her looks!
Another shocking scene was hearing a variety of women explain in one word how they feel about their body. The replies were “disgusting’ ‘too fat’ ‘I hate it’. Whilst I felt sad that those women feel this way, I couldn’t help but feel it resonated with me completely. How many times have I looked myself in the mirror and pointed out my flaws as I see them, one by one. Sometimes that would be first thing I do in the day – I realise now that I would never speak to a friend in this negative way, I wouldn’t even dream of it. But I also know that with children’s minds like sponges, it’s my responsibiity to start thinking of myself more positively; to teach James and Emma that they should be proud of their bodies too.
After the documentary, we were introduced to Wendy Powell, founder of MuTu System, who runs courses on pelvic floor and core strengthening. It was very interesting to talk to her about it and certainly an area I need to improve on. During my pregnancy, the midwives would mention how important strengthening your pelvic floor is but I have never made it part of my day to day. It was also news to me that the problem for a lot of women is not the lack of strength in the pelvic floor muscles, but the muscles being too tight, so I’m looking forward to trying the MuTu System course over the next 12 weeks.
Huge thank you to Wendy Powell and the team at MuTu System for hosting such a fantastic event, it was a pleasure to attend and we’ll be back in due course to tell you all about the pelvic floor strengthening course and how we found it!