Learning to Love My Body with MuTu System

Last week I attended a wonderful event, hosted by MuTu System all about body confidence and taking good care of your body whether you’ve had children or not. It was a thought-provoking morning as it’s a subject close to my heart and even before I became a mum, I’d have ups and downs with how I thought of my body. I’ve always known I should embrace it and accept myself for who I am, but with the social media and magazines all around us showing a different image to what I see when I look in the mirror, I suppose I just struggle.

While we were there, we watched an inspiring and moving 90 minute documentary called ‘Embrace’. It follows Taryn Brumfitt, who published a picture of her before and after body on Facebook and after it going viral, set out to explore the global issue of how we feel about our bodies. I wasn’t prepared for how emotional I would feel watching the documentary – statistics like ‘80% of 5-12 year olds dislike their body’, made me shed a few tears for my innocent and gorgeous daughter at 2.5 years old. It saddened me that girls only a couple of years older are made to feel their bodies are not good enough. Already I feel uncomfortable when someone compliments Emma on being ‘beautiful’ or ‘pretty’. I know she is, of course, but I also want her to know that she is funny and smart and intelligent. I want her to know that it’s not all about her looks!

Another shocking scene was hearing a variety of women explain in one word how they feel about their body. The replies were “disgusting’ ‘too fat’ ‘I hate it’. Whilst I felt sad that those women feel this way, I couldn’t help but feel it resonated with me completely. How many times have I looked myself in the mirror and pointed out my flaws as I see them, one by one. Sometimes that would be first thing I do in the day – I realise now that I would never speak to a friend in this  negative way, I wouldn’t even dream of it. But I also know that with children’s minds like sponges, it’s my responsibiity to start thinking of myself more positively; to teach James and Emma that they should be proud of their bodies too.

Image Credit: MuTu System

Image Credit: MuTu System

After the documentary, we were introduced to Wendy Powell, founder of MuTu System, who runs courses on pelvic floor and core strengthening. It was very interesting to talk to her about it and certainly an area I need to improve on. During my pregnancy, the midwives would mention how important strengthening your pelvic floor is but I have never made it part of my day to day. It was also news to me that the problem for a lot of women is not the lack of strength in the pelvic floor muscles, but the muscles being too tight, so I’m looking forward to trying the MuTu System course over the next 12 weeks.

Huge thank you to Wendy Powell and the team at MuTu System for hosting such a fantastic event, it was a pleasure to attend and we’ll be back in due course to tell you all about the pelvic floor strengthening course and how we found it!

30 Comments

  1. November 14, 2017 / 2:33 pm

    It really is a serious problem, Bridget, when little girls are worried about such things. Parents really have to work at helping their children not absorb society’s obsession. I’m sure you’re doing a great job of that with Emma and James.

  2. November 20, 2017 / 9:51 pm

    My 9 year old seems to talk about weight a lot – I don’t, so I guess it’s the culture at school and tv/youtube. Working on it…For me, I really just want it to work a little better. Got some injuries and aging causing problems. Fun times. #Dreamteam

  3. November 21, 2017 / 6:39 am

    This is something I think about on a daily basis. I never want R to feel uncomfortable in her body. #dreamteam

  4. November 21, 2017 / 6:50 am

    Love the messages here. Particularly thinking of your body like you would a friend’s. I would hate my negative thoughts about my body to lead my own girls to be negative about themselves. Sounds like a great event xx #dreamteam

  5. November 21, 2017 / 7:00 am

    Body image is such a tricky issue, especially for girls. It’s something I’m always aware of now that I’m raising a daughter – I don’t want her to have any of the hang-ups that I do about my body. #dreamteam

  6. November 21, 2017 / 7:04 am

    Body shaming is a serious thing and it becomes even more serious when women do it to their own bodies. I will never look the way I did in my 20’s or early 30’s but I’ve accepted my body and feel very comfortable in it. Thanks for sharing.#Dreamteam

  7. November 21, 2017 / 7:29 am

    This event sounds brilliant and with body image and sadly, body shaming, being such a huge part of the world now it’s important we teach our little ones to love themselves regardless. I certainly didn’t appreciate my figure until I was mid twenties – I was always told I was too skinny or had no tits. Now I am so proud of my skinny baby growing body xxx #dreamteam

  8. November 21, 2017 / 7:39 am

    I have had body image issues for most of my last. I’ve always been small and I don’t think people can understand how comments like ‘you’re so boney’ or ‘you have no bum/tits’ etc can be just as damaging as someone calling you fat. After having 2 kids I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, it’s taken a while to love my now squishy body but I do because I’m so grateful for what’s it’s given me. I totally understand the social media thing, it’s hard not to feel like your body isn’t good enough when all we see are skinny toned celebs in bikini s xx #dreamteam

  9. November 21, 2017 / 9:03 am

    This sounds so interesting. I am terrible at telling little girls how pretty they look, yet it probably stems from / back to my own body insecurities. Looking forward to hearing how you get on with the pelvic floor training! #DreamTeam

  10. November 21, 2017 / 9:11 am

    Sounds like a great event and it would have been good for my mummy! We’d love to watch the Embrace documentary too. #DreamTeam x

  11. November 21, 2017 / 12:03 pm

    Body confidence and being ok with who you are makes such a massive difference to your overall mental and physical well being. It is never too early or late to embrace yourself the way you are. #Dreamteam

  12. mammasschool
    November 21, 2017 / 12:37 pm

    This is a great post and having been a children’s nurse in a former life I have dealt with a lot of serious very sad issues around this subject. It needs a lot more talking about 🙂 #dreamteamlinky

  13. November 21, 2017 / 2:13 pm

    That is a shocking statistic for 5-12 year olds! I would never have guessed that it was so high! We really need to highlight this issue more and make sure that we love our bodies the way they are from a very young age. I guess as adults, we need to show that we are confident with ours before we can ‘demand’ them to love theirs too. I’ve never heard of the Mutu system, but it looks great! #DreamTeam

  14. November 21, 2017 / 2:26 pm

    Such an important message, I went to a similar event where Megan Jayne Crabbe @bodyposipanda was spreading the same message and I felt exactly the same way about my daughter. It was so scary that I haven’t found the words to write it up yet because I want to the subject justice – which you have managed to do. I cringe at myself when I hear myself saying ‘you’re so pretty to Ettie’ because I want her to know her mind is just as important too. You’ve inspired me to get that post back out of the drafts box so thankyou xx #dreamteam

  15. November 21, 2017 / 5:15 pm

    I think about this all the time. I have a gorgeous little girl, and I tell her all the time, but I’ve been told that this is bad also… you’re not supposed to comment on their body/appearance at all, plus, would you compliment your male child the same way, or is he “smart” “strong” “brave” while your girl is “pretty” “sweet” or “beautiful?” I don’t know the answers. I try to tell both my children they’re beautiful, smart, strong, sweet, and brave.

    • November 21, 2017 / 5:23 pm

      I completely agree, it doesn’t feel natural to veer so far off mentioning their appearance at all. I think the words you have chosen are perfect x

  16. November 21, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    Sounds interesting. I keep trying to train my core again. Love to know how you feel after 12 weeks. #DreamTeam

  17. November 21, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    That’s a shocking statistic isn’t it? wow. It is a truly hard thing to be a parent of boys and girls as appearance is very much looked upon as THE most important thing! I was reading about the Victoria Secret models today and about how one poor model was exercising three times per day and only eating salad for the week before the event! It’s so awful that our teenagers are looking up to these girls! This session looks amazing and I’m going to google to see if they have something in my area. Thanks for sharing. xx
    #dreamteam

  18. November 22, 2017 / 3:27 am

    This sounds like an amazing event to attend. I never thought of how it would affect my daughter. Like I know what I have to do, but its just so hard to put it into action. #dreamteam

  19. November 22, 2017 / 6:56 am

    What an interesting and informative even to attend. I have never heard of this concept so really interesting to read X #drrsmteam

  20. November 22, 2017 / 9:10 am

    A real challenge for many people. I need to be more kind to myself too. Why do we focus on the negative? How does this mu tu system work? #dreamteam

  21. November 22, 2017 / 1:41 pm

    They showed that film one evening last week at a local school but it was sold out by the time I found out. As someone who definitely struggles with confidence and my body I’m really careful of what I saw around Clem. We both try and say things other than pretty. Although the other day I said she was strong and she took that literally and tried to push me over! x #dreamteam

  22. talkingmums1
    November 22, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    It sounds very interesting. We really should be kinder to ourselves, like you say we wouldn’t dream of saying negative things to a friend so why to ourselves? x
    #dreamteam

  23. November 22, 2017 / 8:59 pm

    I’ve not heard of MuTu or the documentary but I am definitely going to look into this more. I struggle massively with body confidence and I’ve become aware via being a Brownie Guider that more and more girls are worried about their looks from such a young age.
    #dreamteam

  24. November 24, 2017 / 5:48 am

    It is so sad that little girls are being conditioned to hate their bodies. Bravo to you for wanting to do better for your daughter! #DreamTeam

  25. November 25, 2017 / 1:58 pm

    What a fab event and a positive way to remember how important it is to be kind to ourselves. Terrible statistics though, I can’t believe that 5 year olds would even think about body image in this way. I don’t think stuff like this crossed my mind until I was a teenager. Times have really changed. Good luck with the course 🙂 #DreamTeam xx

  26. November 26, 2017 / 10:47 am

    Such a huge issue!! I’m a total glossy magazine nut but have stopped having them in the house as it occured to me that if flicking through them and feeling a tiny bit inadequate looking at the women in them at 37 years old it might have a negative impact on my teens too #DreamTeam

  27. November 26, 2017 / 1:12 pm

    Where to begin here… I had struggled with an eating disorder and wanting desperately to disappear for decades. I was in my thirties before I was brave enough to seek help. I had battered and beaten my body in an effort to reach invisible. Along the way I had anemia,severe loss of bone density, 5 gum reconstruction surgeries for recession, a kidney stone, arythmia, lack of period of years, infertility, and oh so many more issues. I hated every ounce of my being. This is huge. That you are taking this course, that there is a course like this is hope for your littles and mine. Now, I could give a damn what anyone thinks, and I think you’d agree I have some very strong opinions! Keeping my girls safe from the feelings i felt as a child, young adult is in my head daily. Food is nutrients, sustenance, fuel to keep our strong bodies going. WHat a great course you are on and a great post Bridie! <3 #dreamteam xoxo

  28. November 26, 2017 / 7:15 pm

    Having studied body consciousness and the media at University. I find it interesting what people think about their bodies and sad that so many of us get hung up about it. #DreamTeam

  29. November 27, 2017 / 1:46 pm

    I’ve not heard of this before, but anything that gives me body confidence is great in my book! #dreamteam

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