This is a collaborative post with Sitters.co.uk
I’ve shied away from writing about this for such a long time, but I’ve always been open about how tough I found the sleep deprivation since Emma came along. I suppose it’s the not knowing that is hardest. Six months rolled on and Emma would be waking three to four times a night. Then we got to her one-year birthday and things hadn’t changed so much. Even at two years old, other mums at toddler groups would look at me in disbelief when I told them Emma has never slept through. More to the point, I couldn’t imagine a time when she would.
Of course, this is fairly common amongst parents and the way I coped was to accept that this is our new normal and Emma will get there in her own time. But along the way, as a couple, I knew we’d sort of lost ourselves completely. It was hard to imagine a time when we’d just have a few drinks and a giggle; having a baby definitely re-defined ‘us’ but I wanted a little bit of it back. I wanted to be able to go to the cinema, or be able to say yes to a friends’ invitation to go for drinks.
I discovered Sitters.co.uk when Emma was young and knew it was a fantastic option for us. Every sitter is a pre-checked childcare professional, putting my mind at ease that Emma would be in safe hands for the evening. But when she was waking at 10pm, 11pm, or perhaps earlier, I just didn’t feel happy leaving her. I felt it was unfair on a babysitter and I also worried about Emma not understanding why Mummy and Daddy aren’t there. But recently, she has started sleeping through and it made me realise that our options are far less restrictive than they used to be. You can find more info here on using the Sitters.co.uk service.
We’ve decided that 2018 is the year of using the help around us when it is needed. Sometimes that might be a few hours to ourselves without the children, or just a helping hand while one of us is commuting home from work (train strikes and cancellations make logistics stressful). Whatever the occasion, it’s brilliant to know that we have a vetted website of childcare professionals, just a click away to give us the help we need.