For My Brave Friend – #BloggersBeatingCancer

A couple of months ago, one of my blogger friends lost a dear friend to cancer. When I met Emma, I had no idea that she had started blogging as a result of finding out her friend was poorly. I found it inspiring that she took this news and turned it into something so positive. Emma wrote a wonderful article on grief, which moved me to tears and made me think of a dear friend that I lost early this year.

In January, my primary school friend Jeni died of a brain haemorrhage after having brain tumour surgery. She had been battling with this cruel disease for 3 months but had only told very close family and friends. After her surgery, she sent a picture of her stitches along with a beautiful note that she didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for her; she was remaining positive and would beat this awful disease once and for all to be with her 2 year old son and husband.

After finding out the news, I began to read Jeni’s honest blog about her journey – she explained everything she was going through, the physical side as well as the emotional. She wrote about days when she did not feel able to look after her son because of the effect of the drugs she was taking. As a mother, reading this just broke my heart – how many of us can imagine feeling like this? All you want to do is spend time with your little one, and yet your body is not allowing you to. Her bravery was astounding, and I was so proud to have been her friend. I thought back to memories of sleepovers at her house when we were 10 years old, and how Jeni had hidden a plate of sausage rolls under the bed so we could have a midnight feast. I remembered going swimming together and her encouraging me to jump off the diving board (I was always a bit of a chicken when it comes to heights), and feeling so proud of myself when I did. And then I started to feel guilty…why did we lose touch over the years? Why didn’t I do more?

Death still doesn’t make sense to me. It’s cruel and unfair. Jeni had her whole life ahead of her with a beautiful family; she was a brilliant friend, sister and mother. Always so brave and positive til the very end, a truly inspiring woman. When Emma told me about the #BloggersBeatingCancer campaign, I knew I had to get involved, to do something to help in any way I can. It is our chance to raise money and awareness about cancer. Please join us on Friday 30th September at 10:30am for coffee and a social media thunderclap. Use the hashtag, get involved, get your friends involved, get fundraising.

Join us in #BloggersBeatingCancer

As Sarah from Mumzilla said:

“We bloggers, as a collective, we could really shout. How many people could we each get to donate say £5 to charity? To Bart’s Charity and to MacMillan, for both cure and care? So we have set a date for bloggers, and the people who read our ramblings, to have a virtual coffee morning. To spend 10, 15, 30 minutes, whatever we can spare, to sit and have a drink, and to talk to our friends, either in person or online. To ask people to donate to these amazing causes, that could change lives, that could save lives.

Will you join us? Write a post, use the #BloggersBeatingCancer badge or the picture below if you want to, and just let people know what we are hoping to do, when and why. Every penny we raise goes towards two brilliant charities. Cure and care.

#BloggersBeatingCancer – join us on Friday 30th September at 10.30am, for coffee and a social media thunderclap. Use the hashtag, get your friends involved, and get fundraising if you can.”

Come together, do it for #BloggersBeatingCancer

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  1. September 27, 2016 / 6:50 am

    What a fantastic idea! I am away this week but will certainly try and find a way to join you all. Your friend sounds like she was so brave darling I’m so sorry for the loss xx #DreamTeam

  2. September 27, 2016 / 7:28 am

    This is a great. Such a sad topic but one we need to keep shouting at. $#*& you cancer…#dreamteam

  3. September 27, 2016 / 7:44 am

    Fab post. Sorry to hear about your friend. She sounds like an inspirational woman. Sadly I will be teaching when the coffee morning is on, so I won’t be able to join. It’s a shame as I’m desperate to know what a social media thunderclap is too! #DreamTeam

  4. September 27, 2016 / 7:54 am

    I am so sorry to read about your friend. She sounds like she was an amazing lady. Also, thank you for your support Bridie, it really means so much xx #DreamTeam

  5. September 27, 2016 / 7:57 am

    This is such an amazing idea! I will be at work but will try and join on my lunch break. I am currently watching my brave Nanny battle this awful disease and it’s horrible. Anything we can do to help fight it and help care for those who are fighting it can only be a positive thing #DreamTeam

  6. September 27, 2016 / 8:01 am

    This is such a beautiful and inspiring idea. We have all been touched by cancer and can’t hide from the fact that it has taken over so many of our lives. I’m so sorry about your friend. I lost a friend last November to cancer and he left behind a loving wife and three young children. My hearts broken for their loss #dreamteam

  7. September 27, 2016 / 8:16 am

    So sorry to read this, Bridie. It makes you re-evaluate everything doesn’t it? This #BloggersBeatingCancer is such an awesome cause – I hope it’s the biggest success #DreamTeam

  8. September 27, 2016 / 8:48 am

    such a great cause, I hope it can reach as many people as possible. Really sorry to hear about your friend 🙁 #dreamteam

  9. September 27, 2016 / 9:51 am

    Bridie this is lovely – I’m so sorry about your friend. I’m so sorry there are so many of us who have been devastated by this horrible disease. Thank you for your support xx

  10. September 27, 2016 / 10:15 am

    A fantastic idea for a worthy cause. I sadly can’t attend the virtual coffee morning, but will be donating. Cancer has touched so many with it being so common. Thank you for sharing your friend’s story. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  11. September 27, 2016 / 10:28 am

    I’ll be there and I’ll be sharing this, it’s such a good cause. #dreamteam

  12. September 27, 2016 / 10:33 am

    So sorry to hear about your friend. It seems so unfair that anyone is taken from us, but especially ones so young with young families. So so sad. Great idea to get involved and thanks for sharing x #dreamteam

  13. September 27, 2016 / 11:58 am

    Its’ a really brilliant idea and I hope lots join in. I’m so sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an awful thing and my friend has only just come through the other end. #dreamteam

  14. September 27, 2016 / 12:18 pm

    Thanks for sharing your friend’s story – it’s always so hard to hear about young people with families losing their lives to cancer. This event is such a great idea to help people get mobilized in a virtual way. #dreamteam

  15. September 27, 2016 / 12:29 pm

    This is heart breaking, but such an amazing way to raise awareness.


  16. September 27, 2016 / 12:41 pm

    What a smashing idea! My mum, aunty and grandma were all diagnosed with cancer (in the same year), we lost my aunt, my mum is clear and my grandma is still fighting. So this is particularly touching for me. Hmm you have started my brain ticking now… I will have to get the creative flow going in support. Good luck with it Bridie! Xx

  17. September 27, 2016 / 1:43 pm

    You talk so beautifully about your friend. It’s a great idea and I really hope it is well supported. Alison x #DreamTeam

  18. September 27, 2016 / 6:50 pm

    This is such an amazing idea, I have been following Emmas posts about it. I’m sorry about your friend Bridie, I lost my best friend from school a few years ago now and it’s just devastating, especially when they are so young. I will be supporting this absolutely, thank you for hosting. #dreamteam

  19. September 27, 2016 / 7:44 pm

    It sounds like your friend was a very inspiring lady, such a shame she lost her fight. I think we have all lost a close family member or friend to the big C. So any awareness and fundraising gets my seal of approval! #DreamTeam

  20. September 27, 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Aw I’m so sorry to hear about your friend huni. I am hearing far too many of these stories at the moment, it’s so worrying. This is a wonderful idea and I was so proud of the blogging community when I read about it. I have just donated and shared across social media. Let’s hope we raise lots of money for this important cause. Tor xx #dreamteam

  21. September 27, 2016 / 11:05 pm

    This is such a good idea. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. I can’t imagine what it would be like to get so ill at what should be a really happy time in your life and when you should have so much to look forward to. It’s so cruel. I hope her son is doing well. #dreamteam

  22. September 28, 2016 / 6:47 am

    I think all of us have had our lives touched by cancer one way or another. Such a cruel disease. Great idea for raising money x

  23. September 28, 2016 / 7:15 am

    This is such a fantastic idea to get together and raise awareness and money for some excellent charities. This is such a lovely post, cancer has touched so many people in different ways. We always wish we had done more at the time when it comes to grief. #dreamteam

  24. September 28, 2016 / 9:34 am

    Bridie, such a moving post and such a great cause. I hope all of our #bloggersbeatingcancer posts get people giving, and chatting and sharing coffee and remembering those who left indelible, beautiful fingerprints all over our lives but are sadly no longer with us. #Dreamtime

  25. September 28, 2016 / 11:23 am

    What a heartbreaking post! We’ll try and join in on Friday and help raise awareness xx It’s great that you are doing something positive, Jeni sounds like one amazing lady xx #DreamTeam

  26. September 28, 2016 / 10:28 pm

    I so sorry for your loss, Jeni sounds like an inspiring lady. I’m going to a MacMillan coffee morning on Saturday so I hope to do my but there as I’ll be at work on Friday. Thanks for educating me in #BloggersBeatingCancer. #DreamTeam xxx

  27. September 28, 2016 / 10:28 pm

    I so sorry for your loss, Jeni sounds like an inspiring lady. I’m going to a MacMillan coffee morning on Saturday so I hope to do my but there as I’ll be at work on Friday. Thanks for educating me in #BloggersBeatingCancer. #DreamTeam xxx

  28. Edward
    September 29, 2016 / 8:17 am

    Wonderful idea. Anyone who has gone through this must have so much courage and bravery to keep going. Makes me think of my dad and the things he had to deal with over many years #dreamteam

  29. September 29, 2016 / 11:16 am

    Goodness, one of my biggest fears is Cancer, I have a fear of even reading the word – so I’m amazed I managed to click on this post to read it – but its you, and I love your writing – I had no choice! hehe.
    I can’t even contemplate being diognosed with the big C, and the thought of leaving my family behind makes me feel physically sick.
    I commend anyone who can turn a positive from such a tragic event.
    big love, L

  30. September 29, 2016 / 1:36 pm

    I see this as an inclusive thing for everyone who has access to the internet. There’s strength when we pull together and fight for the cause. Thanks for sharing. #DreamTeam

  31. September 29, 2016 / 6:27 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your friend. It’s always heartbreaking to lose someone but even more devastating to know that she was so young and leaving a young family behind her. I’m so inspired by what you are doing and I think that the coffee morning tomorrow is such a fantastic idea. Unfortunately I won’t be able to join you as I’m working but I’ll be donating. Thank you for hosting #Dreamteam xx

  32. September 29, 2016 / 8:58 pm

    So sorry to hear about your friend. It is a cruel disease. I can’t join in on the coffee morning but I will be there in spirit. #dreamlinky

  33. October 1, 2016 / 4:23 am

    It is so sad, I took a read of Jennis blog and it is heartbreaking seeing photos of her little ones knowing they no longer have their mummy. #dreamteam

  34. October 1, 2016 / 9:00 am

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. This week has been a bit of a washout for me but I’m going to donate now cause it’s such a great cause. #DreamTeam xx

  35. October 1, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    What a wonderful idea to get behind such an important cause. Bloggers do have such a powerful voice, and when put together, boy, it is loud. It’s terrible to lose someone, and it’s completely heartbreaking to think of their loved ones left behind. I am sorry for your loss, and share that terrible feeling and incomprehension at how someones life can just be taken away in a blink of an eye. #BloggersBeatingCancer #DreamTeam xx

  36. October 1, 2016 / 5:41 pm

    Yes I didn’t realise Emma started blogging because of her friend either til she mentioned it at #BML. My heart feels so heavy reading about your friend. That is just monumentally cruel. A 2 year old child. I have to admit I sat here and had a little cry. I’ve lost two friends to this disease and know two more battling it. It’s just too much. I didn’t know this initiative had already been and gone but well done for participating #dreamteam

  37. October 2, 2016 / 9:57 pm

    I wish I had read this sooner and didn’t save my linky comments till Sunday night! I hope it made a huge difference. I lost one of my bridesmaid to bowel cancer. It happened quickly far too quickly. And I still miss her. She taught me to live the life I wanted to. Thanks for hosting #dreamteam xx

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