When I Started Blogging, I Wish I Knew…

Blogging advice is something I’ll never feel qualified to give out – for me, blogging is so personal and there’s no one way that works. But I was recently nominated for The Blogging Recognition Award (twice!) by two lovely bloggers Clare at The Pramshed and Angela at Life Motherhood and Everything – thank you for tagging me – so I thought I’d write a few words about my little blog and what I wish I knew when I started writing.

How did Bridie By The Sea start?

The week I started writing my blog, it was because I had felt that at 11 months old, Emma was changing so rapidly and I wanted to remember everything. I knew there was so much already that I had forgotten and put down to day-to-day moments, and I wanted all those little moments to be documented somewhere. As she approaches two years old, I love being able to look back on the last year and see the ups and downs of being a family – warts and all.

I also started writing because it was something that was 100% mine. Up until I started blogging, I suppose I felt like I had to be a certain type of mum – trying all the Annabel Karmel recipes and researching what kind of toys will help Emma the most. At 11 months in, it all felt a bit overwhelming and I craved being Bridget again. I didn’t realise it at the time but blogging would make me feel more like me again.

What I wish I knew when I started blogging…

Just start. In those initial months, I remember feeling so daunted by all the things that I didn’t know – DA, page views, niche, widgets, plugins and even how to get that Instagram feed onto the footer of my blog! I wanted to conquer it all, until I realised that starting is the hard bit and it’s okay to learn the rest of it as you go along. I still don’t understand SEO properly but I now have a new tactic to focus on one social media platform at a time, mainly for my sanity.

Ask yourself the what, why and how’s. Recently, I’ve been asking myself those key questions about my blog – why do I blog and what do I want my blog to become? I wish I’d done this from the start as it gives you such a focus when you’re writing. I think for the most part, I’ve been throwing spaghetti at the wall and just hoped it would stick. Having said that, everyone’s blog is individual so this approach might not work for everyone!

So that’s a little bit about me and my blog – I’ve nominated some of my favourite bloggers below to take part too:

Otis and Us

Surrey Mama

Reflections From Me

Diary of an Imperfect Mum

Babies, Biscuits and Booze

Mouse, Moo & Me Too

Occupation (m)other

Snapshots and Adventures

Shank You Very Much

Vanity and Me 

Life Loving

Jaclyn Bree

Mabel and Me

Intripid Bebe

The Tale of Mummyhood



  1. April 17, 2017 / 8:36 am

    Got to get my backside in gear now for a post! lol. Thank you for tagging me and I will let you know when it’s live.
    Hope you had a fabulous Easter Bridie xx

  2. April 17, 2017 / 2:52 pm

    I completely agree with you about just starting and not really worrying about it, there is so much to learn and it’s so much easier to learn as you go. I love your tip about doing one social media platform at a time. I think I might do that. Thanks for the mention too. Claire x

  3. April 18, 2017 / 6:04 am

    I totally agree with you! I don’t think many of us ever feel like ‘experts’ or like we can or should give advice, but yours is great! Just start: pen to paper, finger to keyboard, whatever works. After all, it’s all about the words isn’t it?! #DreamTeam

  4. April 18, 2017 / 6:06 am

    So cool to read about how you got started with blogging. #DreamTeam

    • April 18, 2017 / 7:40 am

      Thanks for joining us, love reading your posts! Xx

  5. April 18, 2017 / 6:56 am

    I started blogging because I wanted something that was just mine too – something I desperately needed in those newborn months! I wish I’d known that there’s loads you can do with plugins, linkys, social media, etc, but you don’t have to do it all, especially all at once. Take your blogging journey at your own pace. #DreamTeam

    • April 18, 2017 / 7:38 am

      Definitely, for me that took a while to learn that it’s ok to take my time! It’s been great to get to know you along to way – can’t wait to finally meet you at Blog On 🙂

  6. April 18, 2017 / 7:01 am

    ‘Just start. In those initial months, I remember feeling so daunted by all the things that I didn’t know – DA, page views, niche, widgets, plugins and even how to get that Instagram feed onto the footer of my blog! I wanted to conquer it all, until I realised that starting is the hard bit and it’s okay to learn the rest of it as you go along. I still don’t understand SEO properly but I now have a new tactic to focus on one social media platform at a time, mainly for my sanity.’

    This is EXACTLY where I am! I am loving the actual writing, feeling inspired frequently and have tonnes of posts scheduled/in draft. But the promo stuff is so overwhelming and confusing I just find it sucking the joy out of blogging!

    It sounds like baby steps are best? Are there any companies/blogs you recommend for learning all this stuff?

    • April 18, 2017 / 7:37 am

      Oh so lovely to know you found this useful. Overwhelming is the word, there is so much to learn but you don’t have to do it right away. I would really recommend Mamapreneur Revolution and You Baby Me Mummy’s Blog Fix Friday series to learn more (DM me if you need a link) xx

  7. April 18, 2017 / 7:37 am

    I’ve only just started my blog. I seem to have loads of ideas for posts in my head but i get overwhelmed when it comes to actually writing them. Need to stop going on twitter all the time and concentrate more on actually writing posts! #dreamteam

    • April 18, 2017 / 7:39 am

      Ahh this is my downfall too, though for me I get lost in Instagram! Sounds like you’re doing great, there’s lots of time for posts, keep doing your thing x

  8. April 18, 2017 / 7:43 am

    Great tips. #dreamteam

  9. April 18, 2017 / 7:44 am

    Great tips. #dreamteam #blogging

  10. April 18, 2017 / 8:19 am

    Yes! Just start! I have been saying that for about 3 years so I have finally started and I love it! Great post. #DreamTeam

  11. April 18, 2017 / 8:40 am

    The advice of concentrating on one social media platform at once is a great one. It can get very overwhelming! #DreamTeam

  12. April 18, 2017 / 8:50 am

    We always find it interesting to see how bloggers got into it. Fascinating read x #DreamTeam x

  13. Nige
    April 18, 2017 / 9:05 am

    Love to hear how people start blogging really interesting great post thanks for hosting #dreamteam

  14. April 18, 2017 / 9:24 am

    I must write my one too, as I was also nominated. I love hearing how other blogger’s started out! Thanks so much for hosting #DreamTeam xxx

  15. April 18, 2017 / 9:32 am

    As a newbie into this world it is so interesting to hear everyones stories on how and why they started their blog and how they view things etc. All the behind the scenes things can be so confusing and we are definitely throwing a lot of spaghetti at the moment ha ha Nicky xx #DreamTeam

  16. April 18, 2017 / 11:19 am

    Great advice. I started for the same reasons. I’m a bit overwhelmed with it all at the minute. I know in my head what I want to do with my website etc but having the time and putting everything in to action is a completely different story.. #DreamTeam

  17. April 18, 2017 / 11:22 am

    Thank you for tagging me.
    It is great to read your tips because I thought I was the only one that still does not understand SEO or how to get a certain thing up on my blog in a certain place. I think I am forever googling or watching youtube videos to see how to achieve different things, but it is great because I am constantly learning and finding out how not to do it. haha. 🙂 x


  18. April 18, 2017 / 11:45 am

    Love this 🙂 There is no right or wrong way to blog, we just make it up as we go along 🙂

  19. April 18, 2017 / 12:43 pm

    I’m loving reading about how all of these wonderful blogs began! Thanks so much for the tag! #dreamteam

  20. April 18, 2017 / 1:11 pm

    Just start! That was the biggest thing. I had been thinking about doing it for a full year before I actually did, and now I’m kicking myself. #dreamteam

  21. April 18, 2017 / 2:09 pm

    It is great to have something that is just 100% mine – I so agree with you. It allows me a place to express myself. #globalblogging

  22. Some fantastic tips and you are so right! It’s wonderful to hear how much your blog has helped you too. I’m excited to watch how you get on growing your brand this year too. Thanks for the mention xx #DreamTeam

  23. April 18, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    Hi, congrats on your two nominations. It’s gr at to read all about why s blog started and it’s nice to know that we can all struggle blogging. I am only just starting to learn now, Chloe #dreamteam

  24. April 18, 2017 / 4:25 pm

    I sort of wish I’d started blogging earlier.. never occured to me to try until I did and then I started as soon as I had the thought. #dreamteam

  25. April 18, 2017 / 5:08 pm

    I love this and I totally feel the same about why I started blogging. I needed to claw something back that was just for me and to try and keep my brain ticking over in a flurry of dirty nappies and Cbeebies! Great advice too, I really love this blogger tag. #dreamteam

  26. April 18, 2017 / 5:17 pm

    I also love blogging because even thought I write mainly about the children, it is something that is all mine and no one else’s 🙂 #dreamteam

  27. April 18, 2017 / 6:52 pm

    Brilliant tips. I’m so glad you ‘just started’ because your blog is awesome. #dreamteam

  28. April 18, 2017 / 8:24 pm

    Great tips. I think it’s really important to ask yourself the question why you blog. That right there should help so many people find their niche so to speak. Also, just start – you’re so right! #DreamTeam

  29. April 18, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I completely agree! It’s so true that when it comes to blogging… just starting and getting on with writing is the key thing. Thanks so much for co hosting the #DreamTeam with me 🙂 xxx

  30. April 18, 2017 / 9:37 pm

    I could have written this myself! Fab post #dreamteam

  31. April 18, 2017 / 9:43 pm

    It’s lovely to hear how you and why you started blogging! Keep up the good work mama! #dreamteam

  32. April 18, 2017 / 9:56 pm

    #dreamteam starting is probably the hardest bit. Im not in to pop ups and whizzy features – its a place for me to ramble and remind myself of how i feel / felt at the time. Like a virtual time capsule. However, I’m not interested in learning so its probably worked out better for me 🙂 I’m not sure id know how to???

  33. April 18, 2017 / 10:16 pm

    It’s very daunting at first, but if you don’t tackle too much in one go it does just come together. I love your blog #DreamTeam

  34. April 18, 2017 / 10:19 pm

    This is a great tag, and I feel privileged to have watched how your blog has blossomed and thrived (as has Emma) over the last year or so. Love your quote ‘I’ve been throwing spaghetti at the wall and just hoped it would stick’ – I’m so like that sometimes! I need a plan!!

    Yup to the social media stuff. I am focussing on using Tailwind to pin lots of pins every day and I am trying (and mostly failing) to gain Instagram followers who don’t dump me as soon as I follow them back!! HOW RUDE!

  35. April 18, 2017 / 11:11 pm

    Well done on your two nominations. It’s great to read about how and why you started!

  36. April 19, 2017 / 2:35 am

    Me too! I still feel daunted by all this Instagram crap and what’s okay and not okay to share… #dreamteam

  37. April 19, 2017 / 10:14 am

    Oh I think your def qualified to dish out some advice, you have a great blog. I think the advice about being focused is brill, I sometimes feel like I’m all over the place, trying to find my ‘niche’! X

  38. April 19, 2017 / 2:40 pm

    Blogging is such a great activity, hobby and passion to have, I love reading about everyone else and how they started and your post is fab.

  39. April 19, 2017 / 7:01 pm

    Some great advice – especially the “just start”! It’s easy to spend too much time planning that you just don’t get round to actually starting! And also focusing on one social media channel at a time is a good idea – it is so time consuming trying to cover all the channels! #DreamTeam

  40. April 19, 2017 / 9:41 pm

    Excellent advice! It can be very daunting at first but once you get going you pick bits up along the way. I love your blog, it’s one of my favourites #DreamTeam

  41. April 19, 2017 / 10:36 pm

    Good advise, I would have been totally and utterly lost if it hadn’t been for my co-blogger Stacey. I have no experience and hate social media!! not a good place to start from, but I love writing, and Stacey works in social media. So here we are a year on and loving it! Huge congratulations for your nomination.

  42. April 20, 2017 / 1:06 pm

    This is great – I started for pretty much the same reason. I’m going to work on the why’s & what’s now so hopefully it can grow in the right way (whatever that is!?) #dreamteam

  43. April 20, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    I can absolutely relate to your reasons for starting – I wanted to have something for me too! Love your tactic of focusing on one social media platform at a time. It can feel like a plate spinning exercise otherwise can’t it? Thanks for co-hosting #DreamTeam with me xx

  44. April 20, 2017 / 8:37 pm

    The learning curve is so ridiculously steep and I don’t feel like I will ever know everything there is to know. I setup a website for my choir this week and they were all so excited and pleased with what I had done…I felt like an expert for about 5 minutes! There’s no way I could have done that a year ago and, I don’t know about you, but I feel so proud that everything I have achieved I have done myself. Thank goodness for google and youtube tutorials!! #Dreamteam

  45. April 21, 2017 / 11:54 am

    First I think I’ve noticed a change in your header and think it looks great. I agree with you on wanting to feed the girls well and have toys that help them with their skills. It’s also true that there’s so much to blogging that it is easy to get overwhelmed. #DreamTeam

  46. April 21, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    ooo great post to be tagged in. you’re right just do it!

  47. April 23, 2017 / 8:06 pm

    I agree with just doing it – some people recommend writing a few posts before you publish which is a good tip as I remember some of mine being what i thought was good and now i read them and am like… what the hell??? haha!
    I still cant get over you’ve not been doing this that long, definitely one of the bloggers I look up to! #dreamteam

  48. April 23, 2017 / 10:14 pm

    Congratulations! I know I am glad you started blogging! Keep up the great work! Mazel Tov! Well earned! <3 #DreamTeam

  49. April 24, 2017 / 4:11 pm

    I agree about the throwing spaghetti at the wall and hoping it would stick! I started out not really knowing what I wanted my style to be and wrote different kind of posts.. a few funny, a few “what we did at the weekend”, a few soppy ones. I still don’t think I’ve truly found my voice, or if i have, that it’s not unique enough, but i am enjoying getting a bit more focus now. I’m always amazed to hear how successful bloggers (that’s you by the way!) also felt the same when they started. That instagram feed at the bottom also did my head in!! #DreamTeam

  50. April 26, 2017 / 9:44 am

    These posts are so useful for new bloggers like me – I wanted to master it all from the beginning too and there’s just so much to get your head round, it can be stressful. I don’t have a clue about pinterest still! Thx for sharing #dreamteam

  51. May 17, 2017 / 9:12 pm

    Oh gosh I feel so bad, I’ve only just noticed that you had tagged me in this so I will get on with mine soon. Love both bits of your advice, especially just do it. x

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