5 Things Southern Rail Taught Me This Week

Yesterday I woke up in a pretty foul mood. In fact I was so full of angry that when I sat down and tried to write about it, nothing really came out apart from moaning. I’m usually pretty durable, but it’s been a pretty trying week travel-wise. I won’t be the bore who goes on about how much of an inconvenience that was. Essentially it was this: everything took a lot longer.

All week I’ve been thinking of Albert Camus’ line: ‘hell is other people’. There’s just so many people all doing the same thing, taking the same journey you are. By the time I got to Wednesday night, closing in on my third day of making it home on a delayed train, I’d had enough. I wished I could walk all the way to Brighton. But the worst thing about it was it sucked all the positivity out of me and I was annoyed. However there are a few take-home lessons from this week, if nothing else.

-If you reckon you’ve thought of a cunning Plan B – about a hundred other people will also have had the same idea.

-Snacks and a portable G + T change everything.

-Sitting next to a guy listening to techno blaring out of his headphones starts off as annoying. But after 20 minutes is quite enjoyable. Also respect to the guy for ignoring 5 people death-staring him.

-Don’t try and run across the road into 3 lanes of oncoming commuter traffic, almost getting run over – it potentially won’t save you 2 minutes. Oh, and cyclists WILL attempt to run you over and get really shouty about it.

-I am surprising out of condition and definitely not fit enough to walk everywhere instead of taking the tube.

I know this won’t change at all in the coming months and to be honest, part of me thinks it’s important that the unions do make a stand. However it’s just assumed now that there are no Southern Rail trains to London and it often fills me with dread. I hate everything I’m missing: bedtimes, that anxious feeling when I’m not sure if I’ll be on time, spending more time on the trains than with the boys in the evening. This week has made me think seriously about finding a job in Brighton. It’s made me re-assess this working mum situation and what’s going to work best for our family.

The decision to go back to work was always a bit of a tough one for me, a bit of an unknown. From being incredibly driven and ambitious, my priorities suddenly changed and it was about supporting my family. It wasn’t all about me anymore and what I want. I’m lucky to have a job that is part time, as I know lots of people work every day, but I also know that it’s finding something that works for you. Finding that job that makes you happy, but also doesn’t pull you away from you’re family life too much. Maybe it was just a bit of a rough week, or maybe I’m still looking for the missing piece of the jigsaw to fit a little better.

9 Comments

  1. January 13, 2017 / 1:34 pm

    I’ve had one of this days today. Everything just going wrong! Like you, I work part time, which is great as work is a small part of my life, whereas family is a big part. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

  2. January 13, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    Public transport fills me with dread! I really feel for you commuters. I grew up where there was only one bus a day and if you missed that you would be walking or catching a lift with a tractor! Hope you have a better week next week. Linking up with #linkyfriday

  3. January 14, 2017 / 1:39 pm

    Oh gosh, I don’t how you do it. Sounds like utter madness. I only had to deal with it a couple of times when we were back and that was enough! I agree that the unions need to make a stand but there has to be a better way. I hope that you find that missing piece of the jigsaw soon. #fortheloveofBLOG
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  4. January 14, 2017 / 11:09 pm

    I have so much respect for you and all the other commuters having to juggle this issue, I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be. I would be gutted to have my precious family time so compromised. Look into a job in Brighton, what harm could it do? Then again, the traffic is so bloody busy, you would still have to put up with sitting at traffic lights indefinitely or have even more cyclists yelling at you!haha. I’m Brightonian too, born and bred, I know how bad it is by car or by train..lol! Just subscribed to your youtube too! Nice to meet a local mummy!xx #fortheloveofBLOG
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  5. Nige
    January 15, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    Thankfully I don’t have to use public transport I’m sure my frustration would boil over fab post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  6. January 15, 2017 / 8:51 pm

    Oh Bridie last week must have been such a nightmare for you. I know too well that feeling of are you going to make it back it time. I had a few of those moments last week. Fingers crossed this crisis gets resolved soon, but I can see it going on for a long time. Claire x
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  7. January 17, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    Oh no! Sounds like a right nightmare. I hope things improve for you this week. It must be so annoying to be missing things for reasons outside of your control. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. January 18, 2017 / 10:26 am

    I know how you are feeling – it really sucks when there are tube strikes. Luckily I was able to work from home but I heard it was a complete nightmare getting in and out of London. #fortheloveofBLOG
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