Still Winging It…And That’s OK

Yesterday I discovered that our usual morning nap time had changed all of a sudden. It was a bit of a shock after months of Emma napping like clockwork; she seemed happy to know what was coming each morning…and of course I loved it too. But then, the rug was pulled from underneath us and now she can stay up for over 3 hours before getting tired. It changed, and like everything no-one tells you it’s changing, you just have to work it out for yourself and adapt.

I felt completely robbed of my ‘me’ time all day and then I suddenly realised that the last 15 months of having Emma in our lives have been just that. Adapting. Changing. Tweaking the routine so she gets just the right amount of sleep, eats at the right time, whilst also getting enough time outdoors too. It’s been 15 months of trying and inevitably only getting it right on some of those days. I’ve been winging it and feeling guilty that I’m not quite cracking it, that there are days when I put her down for a nap when she’s not tired enough and she has a complete meltdown.

Girl in the heap on the floor, having a tantrum

On those days, it takes me back to when she was a newborn and I felt like I was trying to climb Everest and someone was callously throwing a massive boulder to push me back down. Those days were hard and it’s sometimes good to look back on it as I know now that it will be okay. I wished then that someone had told me that, and that actually, things will all work out in the end.

As I looked back on these tough times – I realise now that we’re all winging it. We’re all trying so hard to make it work. Sure, some days are easier than others but I really just need to be kind to myself. I need to sometimes say to myself that I did my best and winging it is more than OK. I don’t need to put that pressure on myself to be the perfect mother, with everything sorted. If Emma’s the girl who has a tantrum every few hours, that’s who she is and it doesn’t make me a bad mum that I can’t pull her out of it.

“The Older You Get The More You Realise That No-one Has A Clue What They're Doing. Everyone's Just Winging It”

So here I am adapting and changing again and perhaps moving into a new phase of toddlerdom…who knows what I can define this as because as we all know there isn’t a manual that comes with it! For now, I shall keep winging it, keep grabbing the time to have a hot cuppa where I can and keep on trucking. And for once, I won’t feel bad about just about staying afloat, because it seems to be working quite well for the moment.

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  1. August 9, 2016 / 6:19 am

    I can definitely relate to winging it! Some days I do better than others!! You are right though, be kind to yourself…you’ll be doing amazing! I hate it when nap times change though!! Thanks for hosting #dreamteam

  2. August 9, 2016 / 6:41 am

    And what an AMAZING job you’re doing my darling. I too feel the same; winging it! But we are also doing a fabulous job, we’re strong and we have happy babies. So keep winging it cause you’re clearly doing something right!! xxx#dreamteam

  3. August 9, 2016 / 7:09 am

    I think we’re ALL just whinging it. Our little ones change so much that it can be hard to keep up sometimes as they enter a new phase and we need to adapt to it. All we can do it just go with the flow and try our best. #DreamTeam
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  4. August 9, 2016 / 7:55 am

    You’re so right – we’re all winging it! As you say, adapting and tweaking and trying to find the right combo for everybody involved. It’s tricky because they’re changing and adapting too.

    But yeah, it really can feel like a frustrating day when baby doesn’t do her usual! #DreamTeam
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  5. August 9, 2016 / 8:30 am

    When they drop the naps it can be devastating!!! Winging it is what most parents do isn’t it? Kid’s don’t come with a parenting manual and I was discussing this with my mum the other day. All I can do is what feels right at the time. #dreamteam
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  6. August 9, 2016 / 8:32 am

    Everyone is just doing what they can to get through! Saying that though, when my 2 year old decides to drop her nap I will be distraught! I managed to keep my son napping until he was 4!
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  7. August 9, 2016 / 8:38 am

    Yeah, my 21 month old didn’t nap yesterday either and I about freaked out. Surely it’s not nearly the end of daytime napping already?! Not quite sure that I am ready for that yet! I am sure that if we asked our parents, they’d say they were still actually winging it too! #DreamTeam

  8. August 9, 2016 / 8:52 am

    This is so true, and I’ve been kind of drafting a post to this effect recently. Your Emma is just a month older than Baby Lighty by the way 🙂 Thanks for hosting #dreamteam xxx
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  9. August 9, 2016 / 9:03 am

    I love the quote at the end and its so true! I can totally relate to this post even though my kids are now 12 and 15, I haven’t forgotten those times, even now things are changing for me, I can no longer put them to bed at 7pm and have ‘me time’, as they are now like mini adults! Most nights I am going to bed before them! Its great that you are not beating yourself up about these changes in routine and behaviour, its all part of that bumpy road of parenthood!! In the end you have to do what works for you, don’t be side tracked by others opinions, you are doing just fine girly!
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  10. August 9, 2016 / 9:17 am

    Yip I’m definitely winging it, and getting it wrong a lot of the time! You’re doing a great job and your blog shows all of the great things you do and Emma gets to experience. #dreamteam

  11. August 9, 2016 / 9:35 am

    I think there are a lot of people winging it! Me included! Your blog is amazing and I love to read up on all yoour adventures xx
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  12. August 9, 2016 / 9:37 am

    Thank you! Yes, we are all winging it. It’s good to admit it to ourselves. #Dreamteam

  13. August 9, 2016 / 9:53 am

    I just do whatever I can to get by. A’s moods are all over the place lately. There’s not any major structured scheduling in my house. We just do what needs to be done.

    I think we’re all just winging it, but a lot of us are doing a good job, especially you. #triballove
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  14. August 9, 2016 / 10:07 am

    I think we’ll be winging it until they move out! But thats what makes life interesting – all the learning, the changes and the new routines. Who likes things to stay the same 🙂 #DreamTeam
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  15. August 9, 2016 / 10:07 am

    I loved this post Bridie! It’s honest and so true – we absolutely are all winging it but we do it with love and try our best the majoritiy of the time so that’s ok! Nobody gives you a parenting manual specifically written for your baby when you leave the hospital after all – parenting by trial and error is the only way to do things. Lovely post xx #dreamteam
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  16. August 9, 2016 / 10:22 am

    Oh my goodness you have nothing to feel bad about! I am still winging it, always winging it. Story of my life 🙂 #chucklemums
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  17. August 9, 2016 / 10:28 am

    My son keeps changing his naptime, it gets exhausting but what can we do but just adapt to it. Now we are lucky if we get him to nap twice a day. Just keep reminding yourself Bridget that one day they will be grownups who love and enjoy sleep just like us and we won’t have to worry about naptime lol (or so I keep telling myself) #DreamTeam
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  18. August 9, 2016 / 10:56 am

    Awww bless enjoy the time they grow soo fast #DreamTeam

  19. August 9, 2016 / 12:06 pm

    I love this. My eldest is very much the same and I’ve had to change so much in her routine recently to get it ‘right’. It seems though that I’m not destined to get it right at the moment, she’s really finding her own mind and boy does she know what she wants! Winging it sounds good to me!

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  20. August 9, 2016 / 12:24 pm

    Well my love I read this and thought ‘Oh, Bridie has her shit together a lot more than I do’ – we are rubbish at routines or schedules in this house!! Everything is a ‘take it a day at a time’ approach I have to confess. Everyone is definitely winging it – I think that’s true for every part of life! #dreamteam
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  21. August 9, 2016 / 12:41 pm

    Absolutely hit the nail on the head! Just when I think I’ve got this parenting gig down pat, I get another hurdle thrown at me! Aren’t we all doing brilliantly! #dreamteam
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  22. August 9, 2016 / 1:17 pm

    An amazing post, so good to here a true tale of parenthood, not a sugarcoated version no one can relate to. #DreamTeam

  23. August 9, 2016 / 1:37 pm

    I always think when I see other parents coping far better than me that there is probably someone looking at me who think exactly the same. I think the biggest realisation was that my parents had been winging it all those years ago when I was a kid and I thought they knew everything! #DreamTeam

  24. August 9, 2016 / 2:02 pm

    By the time they are teenagers, you are a pro at winging it! It doesn’t get easier though: decisions are still tough and you really do realise that parenting has no manual! Well done you for doing so brilliantly! Alison x #DreamTeam

  25. August 9, 2016 / 4:28 pm

    I am most definitely winging it at the moment. Clem is now down to just one nap, but the last week or so she has been desperately trying not to have it. She definitely still needs it, but when I’ve been putting her down at her normal time she just isn’t tired. We have had quite a few meltdowns at about 4pm because she hasn’t napped. She did have a few danger naps which were not good! One night she was still awake at 10pm thanks to that!! This week we are starting a new routine, up a bit earlier, nap a bit later, and hopefully it will work out. x #dreamteam
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  26. August 9, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    Oh the magic nap time peace and quiet. How we relish a moment of me time. Then you decide to do something silly and have two kids and you never have nap time again! They joys of parenthood we are definitely winging it! #DreamTeam

  27. August 9, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    Love this. So true and love the analogy with a newborn, very accurate. We are all winging it together! Even those who seem to know what they are doing all the time, they are just better at pretending 😉 Rolling with all the changes is a challenge but as time goes on we get better and better at it.
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  28. August 10, 2016 / 7:05 am

    My eldest is 7 and still have days when I feel like i’m winging it. We are currently in the “dummy only at bedtime stage”, with my 21 month old, I forgot how hard it was. xx


  29. August 10, 2016 / 1:12 pm

    I think winging it is definitely the secret that no one’s tells you. Just when you think you’ve got it sussed they change it. I think they do it deliberately :0)
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  30. August 11, 2016 / 12:10 am

    Winging it is absolutely fine, just as long as you stay half a step ahead from your child! If they cotton on that you’re winging it, you have NO HOPE. Pretend you know what you’re doing at all times, and success will follow my friend. Thank you for hosting #DreamTeam 🙂 xx #Tribe
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  31. August 11, 2016 / 12:10 am

    Winging it is absolutely fine, just as long as you stay half a step ahead from your child! If they cotton on that you’re winging it, you have NO HOPE. Pretend you know what you’re doing at all times, and success will follow my friend. Thank you for hosting #DreamTeam 🙂 xx #Tribe
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  32. August 12, 2016 / 3:29 pm

    I definitely agree we are all just winging it. Especially when they go through so many different phases! Sometimes it feels like just as you get a routine down they want to change it up. #DreamTeam
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  34. August 12, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    Absolutely… winging it at every stage and just going with the flow. You are so right that just because we can’t pull a little one out of a tantrum, it doesn’t mean that we are bad parents. Thanks so much for co hosting the #DreamTeam with me 🙂 xx
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  35. August 12, 2016 / 7:56 pm

    I think winging it is ok. I think winging it is the best that you can do, and the best thing to do! Kids change so much when they are little – as you say, you think you have cracked a routine and then something changes again, if you werent winging it then i think this would send you over the edge!
    I thought we had cracked nap times last week, twice a day at roughly the same time each day, and i was like this is great! But then Freddie decided he had had enough of that, and we have had a couple of days with no afternoon nap and he has been a tired monster! Back to the drawing board!!
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  36. August 22, 2016 / 10:04 am

    Haha I wing it every day :)!! Monkey was never very good st nap time during the day so I didn’t notice it as much when we dropped the naps but I definitely understand the whole me time thing! Sorry I’m late in coming back on comments this week xx #dreamteam xx
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