HELP! The Terrible Two’s Came 10 months Early

Very recently, my little girl has started to walk and is taking a few more steps each day. Every day it’s changing, she gets a little more confident and a little more independent too. Friends of ours with older kids though keep telling me, “enjoy it, because the Terrible Two’s are…well, terrible”. I whole heartedly accept that advice and in my mind think, that’s 10 months away. That’s more than the length of the entire pregnancy which felt long! So we’ve got time…time to work out how we’re going to deal with the Terrible Two’s.

And then this week happened. 

Emma having a crying tantrum taken from a height

It’s coincided with her confidence in walking and imitating older kids she sees when we go to the soft play or baby groups…but I think it’s arrived, only ten months early. This can’t be. It’s not allowed to come early, we’re not ready for this – I haven’t even worked out how to fit stairgates on our landing yet. I’m trying to roll with the punches, but in reality I’m filled with dread, and these days it starts from the moment we wake up:

Shouting for breakfast…only a week ago, our mornings would be a calm affair. Wake up at 5:30 or 6am, play together and then stroll downstairs for breakfast. Only recently our little girl has realised that there’s an easier way. Why not wake up yelling, demanding to be removed from your cot and taken to Weetabix immediately. Ideally breakfast should be served within 7 minutes of waking, but if it isn’t for some reason, just keep on yelling until served.

The nappy tantrum…now it’s time to change the night-time nappy. Little girl seems to enjoy this to begin with and is happily carried into the changing room. However, put her on her back at your peril. This can be tested at any time of the day – sitting up, content baby. Lying down, all hell breaks loose. The best thing to do here is to mask your frustration by forcefully singing nursery rhymes and team that up with speed. Like ripping off a plaster, quick and painless is the only way.

Sleep is not for her anymore…it seems like yesterday our little girl would have a daytime nap without much fuss. It had actually begun to feel like she liked her cot and the independence of sleeping on her own. And then someone flipped the switch – it’s like someone whispered in her ear ‘there’s another way, you know’ and here we are. Nap time now is an hour long affair, where I can hear her banging her head against the cot 20 times, before the tired cries start. I sit there wondering if I should go in and re-settle her – teetering on the edge of my seat. Eventually though, she literally collapses with exhaustion and thank goodness gets some shut eye.

TV is her new obsession…it goes without saying that our little lady loves watching TV, show me a kid who doesn’t love the colour and excitement that is CBeebies. No, I mean a different obsession. She loves climbing on the TV and trying to knock it over. She’s determined, not matter how long it takes. It’s like her Everest and every day is filled with her toddling over to the TV stand and looking back at me, hoping I’ll be impressed. This leads me nicely onto the last one…

Oh the melodrama…it’s a Catch 22 that she loves being naughty (see above) but hates being in trouble. She hasn’t quite worked out that there is a way around this, so continues to be naughty and told off, followed by the most melodramatic crying I have ever seen. Yesterday she actually lay there head down and banging her legs on the floor. Oh dear.

So here we are – we have a Terrible Two-ster and there’s no going back now. I look at her sometimes and realise, she’s out of the baby phase completely and is a toddler now, which is a brand new challenge to face. Deep breaths everyone!

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  1. July 7, 2016 / 8:04 am

    Oh gosh. I wonder if A’s terrible twos will come early! She’s already becoming a little madam. Hopefully Emma will calm down eventually. #TribalLove #ablogginggoodtime

    • July 8, 2016 / 8:26 am

      I hope so too, and that A’s doesn’t arrive too early! The positive is we have very spirited and self-assured little ladies 🙂 Thanks for commenting x

  2. July 7, 2016 / 8:16 am

    My little one is exactly the same at the moment. She screams for her breakfast and then tips it over when we give it to her. She wants to do everything independently but is then frustrated when she can’t manage by herself. It just goes on. I hope everything settles back down for you soon and this is just a short phase! And if you figure out how to get her to control her temper, please let me know. x

  3. July 7, 2016 / 8:18 am

    Oh yes, we have been there, and still are there! My youngest has just turned two and has many of these delightful (!!) traits, and my youngest daughter has just turned three and STILL has all of these traits!! Infact, my four and twelve year old can still act this way at times too!! Kids hey? Good luck! #coolmumclub

    • July 7, 2016 / 8:35 am

      Eeeeks! It is like a switch that flips – it happens so suddenly…sounds like it might be here for a while 😉 They keep us on our toes!

  4. July 7, 2016 / 8:18 am

    Oh yes, we have been there, and still are there! My youngest has just turned two and has many of these delightful (!!) traits, and my youngest daughter has just turned three and STILL has all of these traits!! Infact, my four and twelve year old can still act this way at times too!! Kids hey? Good luck! #coolmumclub

  5. July 7, 2016 / 12:03 pm

    I definitely feel your pain with this one. Mine seems to get everything early. I think we are already in threenager mode. The phrase “I say NO” followed by a mean facial expression has become an regular thing in my house. I remember the dreaded TV climbing and the hate of being changed. I hope it gets better! Maybe she will get over it sooner. #TribalLove
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  6. July 7, 2016 / 1:02 pm

    The terrible twos have come early for us too – Little B is 20 months and showing all the signs… #coolmumclub
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  7. July 7, 2016 / 1:41 pm

    I’m not sure the ‘Terrible Twos’ is really a thing! Having had 2 kids go through it, I think it just comes and goes as they go through different milestones. It’s different for each child. Just because she is testing you now, doesn’t mean it will last until she turns 3. It’s horrible when you’re in the middle of it, but it is probably just a phase. She’s working out her boundaries. Just try to be consistent with what they are and it should settle down soon. #coolmumclub

  8. July 7, 2016 / 2:55 pm

    Oh I loved this post when it was on Meet the Mums! Those tantrums are never easy, I will move mountains to avoid one. Emma still looks adorable though, even when she is having a melt-down. Were you employing Pat’s technique of taking a photo to help calm the situation? 🙂 #coolmumclub
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    • July 7, 2016 / 2:56 pm

      Ah thank you lovely! Hmm I think in this instance the tantrum may have been because mummy kept incessantly taking photos of her (shhh don’t tell anyone!) 🙂 xx

  9. July 7, 2016 / 3:24 pm

    I feel your pain. This sounds all too familiar and mine are 3 and 5! haha x #coolmumclub

  10. July 7, 2016 / 3:33 pm

    When my older 2 was little the 2’s was a breeze and I thought yay I did it I got though the terrible twos with my sanity intact then they hit 3 and became complete nightmare – way to lul me in to a false sense of security girls! But Mimi is a completely different child to her older sisters as her dad says if she had been the first she’d have been the 1 and only! As soon as she could crawl she could climb! We still need to find the volume button on her voice oh and yesterday morning she did an amazing impression of Harry Houdini, escaping not only from her grow bag but then from her cot too! But all though her tantrums and escapades drive me to the point of insanity she alway manages to just snatch me back with an impromptu hug or a snotty kiss!

    • July 7, 2016 / 3:36 pm

      Ah bless! They are all so different aren’t they? Emma has what I like to refer to as the “red mist” a tantrum of sometimes 10 seconds where she is overcome with rage!! When they come in for a kiss and cuddle everything is forgotten 🙂 thanks for the lovely comment xx

  11. July 7, 2016 / 5:21 pm

    Oh poor you! Sounds testing! We have terrible moments and terrible patches and have done for a while (my son is nearly three) but take heart – it’s not constant. And the good stuff really is so super good that it can (sometimes) outshine the bad. I found Toddlercalm really useful but it’s not for everyone. Sending calming thoughts your way…and Emma’s! #ablogginggoodtime
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    • July 7, 2016 / 5:23 pm

      Oh thank you! It is ups and down at the moment and the cuddles & kisses (as she’s just learned to kiss yay) does outweigh the tantrums for sure. I’d not heard of Toddlercalm but will check it out! Xx

  12. July 7, 2016 / 5:37 pm

    Mini is the same and terrible twos seems to be well in its way. At the minute, each day is different. One day she will sleep for three hours and spend another playing so quietly in there that I don’t realised she’s woken up, other days I’m a monster for suggesting a nap and her cot is a prison!
    Lucy xx #Triballove
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    • July 7, 2016 / 5:40 pm

      Sounds very similar here! It’s like two different girls altogether thanks for commenting xx

  13. July 7, 2016 / 6:35 pm

    I think there is a theme here, my little one certainly hit the terrible twos earlier. She’s not yet two and we are fully versed in the terrible twos. Argh. I must say though, whilst we still have shoe refusal, nelly change refusal, dressings/undressing refusal and general tea time nightmares she has calmed alot tantrums are considerably fewer and far between and she is lovely company..most of the time, so there is hope! Ps oh my goodness 5.30 that’s just mean! Xx #ablogginggoodtime

    • July 7, 2016 / 6:37 pm

      Aw I’m glad – I live in hope it won’t last forever! 5:30 indeed eeek, although some mornings she lies in til 6am which is instantly better. Thanks for commenting xx

  14. July 7, 2016 / 7:57 pm

    Ah yes, it seems the baby days are slipping away! Our youngest is now almost two and I still can’t believe it. She is also an absolute tearaway! But there’s hope for you yet – maybe it’s just a phase?!
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    • July 7, 2016 / 7:58 pm

      It has to be a phase! I’m holding out for it – it will pass soon enough 😉 Thanks for having me x

  15. July 9, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    At least you got to a year!! I swear it does come with the confidence of being able to move. Suddenly she can crawl and stand so if she doesnt like something she is throwing it or screaming muuuummmm or nana at the top of her voice! OMFG I swear if terrible twos are bad for a long time I better get an easy ride at teens or so help me Ill exchange her ha ha ha!
    Good luck!!

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  16. July 10, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    I’m not looking forward to the terrible two’s! my sister had a bit of a rough time with my nephew, i hope baby girl is different
    #triballove xx
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  17. July 10, 2016 / 7:43 pm

    Oh no! Some of these traits are apparent with R, laying down is a no no! Good luck #triballove

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