One for My Pregnant Friends

Over the past month, two of my favourite people in the world told me that they are expecting their first babies! As soon as I heard the news I was just filled with excitement for them to be starting their own family and it made me think back to when I was pregnant. Those 9 months were mixed for me, some days I absolutely loved it and other days I just wanted that phase to be over with so we could meet our little baby.

Then I started to think about what I would have liked to know all those months ago. What little things weren’t mentioned to me, but would have helped a great deal? As I toast to these two fabulous ladies and share their antipication, here’s a few things that I can tell you now that we’re 15 months on. As anyone knows from reading my blog, I am no expert in this field but there are things that I remember from those early months, when things seemed quite tough.

Image of pregnant woman holding her belly with sunshine coming through behind her

I want to say the right thing to you, offer you some advice that I would have liked to hear too…you’ll have heard all the cliches already. Get lots of sleep, ask for help, it’s OK not to be able to do it all – these cliches are all true, of course! But beyond this I want you to know that I am beyond excited for you as this jump into motherhood, to creating your own family is just beautiful.

Those nights in hospital after the birth might be a bit overwhelming and daunting – so stock up on yummy things to eat to keep your strength up. For me, that second night in hospital was tough and I’ll be forever thankful to my brother bringing 2 bags of goodies…that’s the kind of visitor you need straight after the birth! I want you to know that it’s normal to suddenly be overcome with worry for this tiny teeny baby who can fit in the palm of your hand. And so normal to laugh at yourself as to why you brought ear plugs and an eye mask to hospital with you…the reality is that you will spend the entire night staring at your perfect creation.

I want you to know that it’s more than OK if you feel emotional beyond the 3-5 days after the birth, as the NHS advise. It doesn’t mean you’re failing, or not getting to grips with it quick enough. You’ve just been thrown into a huge change and if you need to have a cry, let it all out! A walk in the park on those harder days does make the world of difference, even if you feel like a zombie from Dawn of the Dead at the time. Most of all, know that everyone is different and for me it took much longer than this to not cry every time I dropped something or if I couldn’t find cheese in the fridge.

I’m going to be honest here, you’ll be inundated with advice. Not just from family who already have kids, but anyone and everyone you come across day to day. I know that this advice will make you doubt yourself and everything you’re doing day to day, they usually mean well. But remember this, you’re the Mummy. And Mummy Instinct rules over anything else. I once caught a shooting poonami with a nappy, avoiding spillage on our cream carpet. Mummy Instinct is the only explanation for it!

You can do this. Some days it won’t feel like that, especially when your baby is cluster feeding so often that it feels like there is no break between feeds. I remember in those early days, I felt so overwhelmed. The sound of Emma crying made me feel like I’m not cracking it – sometimes she’d be wailing and then I’d remember I hadn’t changed her nappy for ages. Ooops. But you’ll learn all those little things about your baby so fast and even after 1 week, you’ll feel like you’ve been a Mum forever. And the best thing of all, is that to your gorgeous baby, you are their world through and through.

I could ramble on forever but I’ll just say this: I love you and I’m always here for you, as you were for me at 3am so many nights. I promise you will become an eat-with-one-hand Superwoman, who can do it everything super fast! Remember to be kind to yourself always and eat as much cake as you need in the afternoons. You’ve got this mama-to-be; I’m already so proud of you.

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  1. August 16, 2016 / 7:02 am

    This is so lovely honey and I totally get the excitement of knowing what your friends about to embark on!!! Xxx #dreamteam

  2. August 16, 2016 / 7:25 am

    Such a lovely post! Makes me nostalgic about those early days. I think next time I’ll savour everything just that bit more. It’s been only 9 months but they grow up and change so quickly I can barely remember the endless cluster feeds! #dreamteam
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  3. August 16, 2016 / 7:54 am

    I loved what you said about the mummy instinct! So true. There are so many things I didn’t even know I had in me. And the part where you talk about how overwhelming the whole thing is? So true! Great post to your friends… I hope you showed them!
    I love when one of my friends is pregnant. It makes me feel broody again! LOL #dreamteam
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  4. August 16, 2016 / 8:22 am

    great tips. Such a great idea to bring snacks to the hospital. I was so hungry after giving birth! #DreamTeam

  5. August 16, 2016 / 8:25 am

    Your friends are lucky to have such a supportive and loving person to seek for advice and comfort. I really could have done with having such a friend when I was expecting, as I was terrified and felt unprepared. I do hope your friends get to read this, or more importantly hear it from you themselves. It’s lovely. #DreamTeam
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  6. August 16, 2016 / 8:28 am

    I didn’t have a C so can’t relate to that bit, but can relate to the need to eat something sweet at whatever time of the day you need it! #dreamteam

  7. August 16, 2016 / 8:30 am

    Eeeeks how exciting and how lovely that they have you there to help them and support them! Really great tips, especially the snacks! #dreamteam
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  8. August 16, 2016 / 8:52 am

    I’m pregnant again so its good to read this post.
    I did not bring any snacks with me the first time…..biggest regrets EVER
    Great tips, thanks for sharing


  9. August 16, 2016 / 9:52 am

    Thanks wonderful. There is nothing like it.. and that can be pretty scary!! Sounds like you’ll be there when they need help even if it’s just reassurances. #dreamteam

  10. August 16, 2016 / 10:03 am

    Bridie this is a cracker of a post, your friends are lucky to have you! I wish someone had told me about the second night in hospital. I felt so so lonely and helpless and completely unqualified to look after this tiny creature. Being stuck in hospital is pretty grim and then when you get home the hard work really starts! Excellent brother you have though by the sounds of it! Xx

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    August 16, 2016 / 10:15 am

    Lovely words of advice here, sure your friends will appreciate them. It is so much more exciting when you’re a mum and you hear of a friend’s pregnancy. #dreamteam

  12. August 16, 2016 / 10:40 am

    Lovely post. I remember my best friend popping into my labour room just as I had a break in contractions to deliver a pot plant! We had a perfectly lucid conversation and after she left it was back to the screaming and yelling at my husband! Friends add so much! Love Mary xx #DreamTeam

  13. August 16, 2016 / 11:40 am

    What a lovely post. Honest and simple advice is often the best and this post proves it. Much love to your friends! #DreamTeam

  14. August 16, 2016 / 12:32 pm

    What a lovely friend you are! I think that nothing can prepare you for how it feels when you have a child, you have to experience it! Thank you for hosting #DreamTeam
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  15. August 16, 2016 / 12:39 pm

    This is a lovely post to read, I wish I had read something like this when I was pregnant, or even in those first few days when I was left alone with this tiny creature that I didn’t know what to do with! You are right, Mummy instinct is amazing! #dreamteam

  16. August 16, 2016 / 1:20 pm

    Amazing advice! Not least the hospital snacks. I was in labour 45 hours without a bite to eat, and the main thing I remember of my stay in hospital was a full size bakewell tart which my amazing Mum in Law brought for me, and which I stuffed into my face at 2am whilst feeding my newborn for the 27th time that night. Congratulations to your two friends. So many exciting adventures ahead and they will be so glad of your support xx

  17. August 16, 2016 / 3:07 pm

    Somehow, we do get through. Dump the books, don’t read about how to parent, just listen to your baby and your body. Everyone struggles, there is no perfect way to parent. #DreamTeam

  18. August 16, 2016 / 6:33 pm

    Aww, your friends are really lucky to have you! I didn’t have a section, but one of the moments that stands out after Lily’s birth was eating fish and chips on the hospital bed with Lily in my arms. #DreamTeam
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  19. August 16, 2016 / 7:11 pm

    Aww that’s so lovely and so true!! I agree with all of it, especially to trust your instincts. Advice is so overwhelming and at times completely contradictory, you have to trust yourself. What a lovely post 🙂 #Dreamteam
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  20. August 16, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    “You can so it” is something all new mum’s (and old ones) need to hear. #dreamteam

  21. August 16, 2016 / 8:16 pm

    What a wonderful letter.
    Even though I wasn’t the one stuck in the ward I was worried and couldn’t sleep comfortably after the birth of each of my children.
    After DD1 I stumbled and got many things wrong when I went to the hospital and m to the ward but after that treats and flowers waiting at home.
    I wish we had a friend like you when she was first pregnant!

  22. August 16, 2016 / 8:57 pm

    Power to the mama! Great post, I think it’s so important women share their support for others as they embark on this journey called motherhood. It’s so important to know you’re doing a good job, it’s all ok, it will get easier xx Thanks for hosting #DreamTeam Yvadney x

  23. August 17, 2016 / 7:34 am

    Ah this is so lovely. Invaluable advice for new mums. This is exactly what they need to hear – real advice! Alison x #DreamTeam
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  24. August 17, 2016 / 9:08 am

    I cannot help but get really excited when friends announce their pregnancies but even more excited when I know that it’s their first! it always great to offer advice for new parents and you have done this perfectly!#DreamTeam
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  25. August 17, 2016 / 3:25 pm

    It’s such a massive change becoming a mum for the first time isn’t it, nothing can ever prepare someone for it. But being able to give friends support and helpful advice is great x #dreamteam
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  26. August 17, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    I am so always full of pride to ask for help. That is what I will tell my old pregnant self, its okay to accept and ask for help. Actually that is what I would tell myself now!

    This is such a lovely read! #DreamTeam
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  27. August 17, 2016 / 7:09 pm

    This is such a sweet post! I think every soon to be new mom could use to read this. I feel like often times people aren’t honest about their experiences so others don’t know what to expect. Your friends are lucky to have someone as supportive as you. #DreamTeam
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  28. August 17, 2016 / 8:42 pm

    Oh yes, ALL THE SNACKS. Having been unable to eat anything but tiny amounts in the last few weeks of my pregnancy due to the enormous bump pushing my stomach into a tiny space, I thought the hospital food (which I loved. Bring on the stodge) would be enough, but when my aunt came in with a couple of desserts for me I was over the moon! #dreamteam
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  29. August 17, 2016 / 10:09 pm

    Lovely post, it’s nice that people want to offer advice but important to know you don’t need to follow it and you should trust your instincts! #dreamteam

  30. August 18, 2016 / 11:37 am

    We mothers rock. It’s so true that we are so attuned with mothers instinct and just need to believe in ourselves. #DreamTeam
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  31. August 21, 2016 / 8:42 am

    Ooohhh it’s always so exciting when friends becomes pregnant. A whole new adventure and they are very lucky to have a mummy like you to cheer them on. Here’s to tons of positive ‘you can’s’ rather than you must do’s… Thank you for co-hosting the #DreamTeam with me xx
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  32. August 23, 2016 / 12:10 pm

    Yes hospital snacks as they just don’t feed you enough in my opinion! My bestie has just had her first baby after IVF and it’s wonderful to see her dream finally come true. Such a lovely post Bridget! Tor xx #DreamTeam
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