Just Another Phase To Get Through

Before I became a mum, I never appreciated how truly frustrating encouraging your baby to eat would be. I suppose at the start of our weaning “journey” (which I actually prefer to think of as a rollercoaster), feeding Emma was part of my day-to-day responsibilities. Much like changing her nappy, or making sure she’s had enough sleep during the day. I felt this overwhelming feeling of failure if she refused to eat anything. The frustration inside me would build up until I felt hot with anger, helplessness and self-doubt, googling every weaning tip or trick out there.

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I’m pleased to say I got better at that. I started to cut myself a bit of slack and relaxed a little. I honestly don’t think I could’ve kept it up! In those periods of time when Emma only wants Ella’s Kitchen Mango Baby Brekkie (seriously good even for adults), rice cakes and cubes of cheese…I remind myself she’s perfectly healthy and it will pass.

I just repeat to myself “it’s just another phase to get through”.

Yesterday we got through to the other side of a phase that lasted about a week. I wasn’t sure if it was teething (the legitimate excuse for any unforeseeable tantrum), a cold or maybe the heat. Emma has inherited the Irish gene from both her parents and she can’t stand the heat. At 4 months old, there was a heatwave and I actually had to put her directly in front of a blower fan to stop the screaming! It was all so sudden, one minute she was eating perfectly fine and then the next minute she was stubbornly crying at all the regular favourites. It was a relief that she ate so heartily yesterday and that it continued into today.

Weaning can be hard. People don’t tell you that – I walked into this world of weaning thinking that I would give Emma a stick of carrot and she’d devour it. I must add that for some people, it does happen like that and their babies are super keen on food…but in my experience and through other mums I know, it’s pretty testing. I’ve spent the last 9 months reading books on weaning tips, how to get your child to love it, things to cook when they get fussy over purees, and the one I loathe the most – the month by month ‘what your child should be doing at this month’.

Emma took her time. It makes me laugh now because as her character emerges this is her all over. She’ll do things when she’s ready…when I try to get her to show Nanny how she can clap, she’s not interested. If she spots the camera pointing in her direction, she immediately turns away and does something else. At 7 months, I was supposed to be only mashing food, which was laughable as I knew there is no way Emma could do that, she had no interest in using her teeth.

So to those mamas out there who are beginning the weaning journey, just know that taking your time rocks. It’s the only way. Taking the lead from your baby is the secret to it all, however painstakingly patient it takes. And just remember this:

One day your baby will suddenly be crazy about every food they set their eyes on, including your snacks!

One day he/she will suddenly be able to use the sippy cup without spilling it all over themselves like a water fountain.

One day you won’t have to puree everything or cut a million blueberries in half.

One day you won’t have to race home to have lunch/dinner in the house, as meals in public just aren’t happening.

One day it’ll pass. (and it did!)

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12 Comments

  1. May 12, 2016 / 8:56 am

    We’re about to start weaning, I know so many people who’ve found it hard. I like the phrase ‘food before one is just for fun’ and I will be studiously ignoring the health visitor’s advice that they should be on 3 meals a day by the time they are 8 months – I don’t think I know any babies who did that! You’re right to cut yourself some slack though. Just do what you need to do to get through the day, I say!! #StayClassy

    • May 12, 2016 / 11:45 am

      Ah totally, I think Emma only got on 3 meals a day from 9-10 months…it felt easier and I think it’s turning out ok! Thanks for commenting x

  2. May 12, 2016 / 1:52 pm

    Ah yes, it does doesn’t it. I went into weaning a bit confused and sort of bumbled through. We also have so many different phases…not sure what phase we’re in at the moment…it’s definitely one that doesn’t feature any fresh fruit or many vegetables though so a little stressful. He keeps telling me that he’ll like them when he’s ‘a bigger boy’! And once ‘a bigger girl’…I fear I could be waiting a while then #stayclassy
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  3. May 12, 2016 / 4:02 pm

    Definitely a believer in food before one just being for fun. It was a similar experience for us with our eldest and the mess was horrible. Her siblings however weaned through the age old tradition of scavenging for the scraps of the other before graduating to outright theft!

    #StayClassy

  4. May 12, 2016 / 4:52 pm

    yay it does pass – and thank goodness – funnily enough I’ve just written a post about phases and mine are teens now – there are lots of phases all the way through childhood – actually life in general is made up of them and some are just more damn pleasant than others! #stayclassy
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  5. May 14, 2016 / 4:39 pm

    I’m so glad you shared this as I am about to start the weaning “journey” haha. I’ve heard that the best way is to let you baby lead, as you’ve mentioned. I think I’m fairly laid back so if he is slow to take on food, I’m hoping I’ll be patient! : ) I’m secretly hoping that if he starts eating he’ll start sleeping through the night hahaha, it’s probably never going to happen. Waaahhh : ( Thanks for linking up with #StayClassy!

    • May 14, 2016 / 4:41 pm

      Hehe ah I’m still searching for the answers as I’m sitting here with my baby who will only eat cubes of cheese and toast for dinner! Patience is the key 🙂 thanks for hosting! Xx

  6. May 15, 2016 / 8:50 am

    Yes! This is awesome! Weaning was pretty textbook with O, but with F and his problems it has been a nightmare. We have literally never moved from smooth purée to anything with lumps because lumps make him gag and gagging immediately leads to puking. So he has smooth purée to make sure he gets all the vitamins and stuff he should be getting, then he eats things like bread sticks and rice cakes and all that kind of stuff. I used to worry about it all the time and think I was doing something wrong with him, but now I just ignore the funny looks I get when we’re out and I’m feeding him stuff meant for first stage weaning. They don’t know my baby!
    Love this post :). #StayClassy

    • May 15, 2016 / 8:55 am

      Aw thank you so much lovely – i hate the funny looks! Once I was in a cafe and started giving Em her lunch, she spat out the first mouthful and the people next to us started sniggering! So annoying! We’re still battling through but great to know I’m not alone with the eating – textures are really difficult for us but she loves bread sticks and rice cakes too xx

  7. May 15, 2016 / 9:42 am

    You are absolutely right: ‘it’s just a phase’ is a phrase I use ALL THE TIME! Now NC eats absolutely everything, which is mainly shoes and spicy rice crackers. I don’t really mind though, as it’s ‘just a phase’! Hope you’re having a lovely weekend. Raining in Rhodes! 🙂 xx

  8. May 18, 2016 / 9:42 pm

    Theres always another phase to get through isnt there hun? I also dont know where id be without dr.google. Great post and thanks for linking to #stayclassy #triballove
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    • May 20, 2016 / 12:23 pm

      Ah you’re right there, Google has been my best friend this past year!! Thanks for commenting Hun xx

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